In the past, I used to believe that the rigidity of my opinions makes me a strong person. I imagined that I was mentally weak, if I changed my opinion hither and thither based on passing fancy. And partly that might be true. I don't want to become the kind of person who changes the kinds of eggs she eats or the style of coffee she drinks, because the people around her change their preferences. Like in the movie with Julia Roberts, 'Runaway Bride.' That's not called 'Changing your mind,' as she says in the scene. But not knowing what you want, as Richard Gere aptly points out. But I also don't want to go to the other extreme. Where someone gives me facts, figures, and data for something, and I still refuse to believe it. Because I have an opinion on the matter damn it, and it's going to stay the same until I die. Thank you very much. Getting Stuck…
There are many people out there right now who are hating on 2018, saying that it was the worst year ever. And many of us who are saying that it was the best year ever and we can’t wait to see what 2019 brings to us. Either way, I didn’t want to do a post pontificating on how my 2018 was the best year ever, and why I am feeling really positive about 2019 and the good choices I have made.
In fact, I just wanted to talk about habits. Life is a series of choices and habits. We get up in the morning, and instead of drinking a healthy green smoothie or eating a Chia bowl, or something else like that, we end up chowing down a McDonald’s Breakfast Sandwich (in all of its ooey-gooey goodness). Or we have confronted with the choice of taking the stairs to the fourth floor, or the elevator, and again we go with one choice or another.
Life is a series of good or bad choices. Not all choices you will make in a day will be good for you. And not all choices you make in a day will be bad for you. We always fall somewhere in the middle.(more…)
There is a lot online and even on my website about sticking to something, being persistent, being consistent, and more. I am not detracting from that at all. I cannot detract from it, because I am a shining example of being consistent, and persistent gets you to lead your ideal life. That’s what life is all about.
Keeping on going on the path that makes sense for you, and sticking with it, UNTIL, it doesn’t make sense anymore. And then tweaking your path, and moving to something that makes more sense for you.
It doesn’t mean that you bang your head again and again against something that is so obviously not working for you. (more…)
I recently got my dream job offered to me on a platter. It was unexpected on all counts. Not only was I not expecting to get the job, even though I applied for it with a full heart, I didn’t expect to get it so quickly. I applied one day in the afternoon, in a random meeting with my current boss, and then the next day, I met with the owner and my boss, and they offered me the job. I mean, it is insane. I still can’t believe it. I have to pinch myself every day to believe it.
Now, I am surprised that they offered me the job for many different reasons. But the main thing is that in my head, I had this delusion or disillusion that I am not ready to work at my dream place yet. I have to grow more. Maybe even become more. I have to do more work on myself. I have to learn more about myself and this world. There were all of these assumptions that I had in my head.
But I didn’t let them hold me back. Even if I didn’t believe I would get the job, I applied wholeheartedly with visualizations, and affirmations. “I believe I will get the job. I believe I am ready for the job. I believe I am the perfect person for the job.” And so on. (more…)
So many people message me all the time asking me a similar question. How are you able to put yourself out there on social media and online, in so many different ways, all the time, without feeling afraid of the repercussions? It’s such a weird question for me to be asked, because this is such a recent phenomena for me. It was only 2 years ago, that I was one of those people asking this exact same question in my head.
I wanted to build an online business. I wanted an online presence, because that’s where the market is moving towards, but I was afraid to be online. Afraid to put my face and image and stuff online, because that meant that people could “find me”. Afraid to put myself out there, because that meant that people could make fun of me, and could reject me, or send me nasty messages.
So much fear inside of me. I was afraid of so many things. (more…)
Do you know what happens when you hit the snooze button in the morning? When we wake up and go back to sleep, we are actually going back into another sleep cycle, and then interrupting it over and over again. I had an ex who used to hit the snooze button twenty times in the morning before he finally woke up. I would be up with the first alarm, and doing stuff, and he would still be hitting an hour and a half later.
The reality with all of these interrupted sleep cycles is that we feel more tired, than we just woke up the first time around, because we are going in and out of sleep several times, and not really getting any true rest. Even though, in our minds, we imagine that we are allowing ourselves to rest just a tiny bit more.
I was thinking about this snooze button, and I realized that every time someone hits the snooze button on their sleep, instead of taking a few steps forward or even standing still, they are actually being pushed a few steps backwards. This is because they are going to wake up groggy and out of sorts, instead of being refreshed by their sleep. It’s going to take them hours to truly wake up after all of those missed sleep cycles. (more…)
Let’s start off with a story as always. I recently started posting once a day, every morning, on YouTube. It’s nothing major. I do a video on things I am interested in, and I post it up as one of my tasks of the morning. It’s easy for me, as I don’t edit it, and I just do it impromptu as I do all of my videos. So here I am posting every single morning without thinking much about the result. In less than two weeks, my subscribers have gone from 30 to 57. Not a big rise, you say. Not a big deal, you say.
Agreed. It’s not such a big deal. It’s just a raise of a few subscribers. But it’s literally like the universe is telling me, “You are on the right track with consistent efforts. Just doing something every single day for a long period of time is the way you become a master at it, and the way you get to your goals.” (more…)
Over the past two years, I have done a lot of things that I was too afraid to do before. I built my courage one brick at a time, by doing what I was not comfortable doing. Every single time, I was able to beat my wavering self and do what needed to be done, despite the odds, I built a little bit of trust in myself. Until this point in time, right now, when I am at that point where I have indestructible trust in who I am, what I am doing, and where I am going.
It doesn’t mean that I don’t have moments of doubt or I don’t falter at all. I’m still human, after all. But overall, if I take the average of all of my motions and my movements, I realize that I believe in myself.
This belief was something that I was searching for, for a long, long time. 30 years to be precise.
I’m Better Than Ever In My 30s
I find that as time goes on, I am getting better and better. I don’t want to compare myself to an aged cheese or a bottle of great wine, because they aren’t conscious of their changes. But I was absolutely conscious throughout every single change that I went through. (more…)
There are so many options in this beautiful world of ours. So many things we can try and do. That sometimes we end up doing nothing. We try and start a number of items. And we end up completing none.
Since I initiated the 30 Day Consistency Challenge for my loyal subscribers, I have had many tell me their stories of starting and never finishing. They call consistency the beast they never conquered. The monster that sits under their bed mocking their non-finished items.
I don’t want us to give consistency so much power by calling it a monster. We are the masters here of our own habits. Or at least we should be.
In my own life, I have found there are seven things I have to focus upon in order to stay consistent. Call them habits, or thought patterns. Whatever they are, they are necessary for me to stay on the consistency bandwagon. (more…)