I Feel Like An Imposter – Everyone Else Seems To Know What They Are Doing

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Imposter Syndrome hits us all and it hurts us all. I hear over and over from my friends, and coaching clients, that they feel like they are the only ones in their circle who have no idea what they are doing with their lives. They are the only ones who are lost. The only ones who are searching. The only ones who are misspent. And the only ones who don’t have their shit together.

Everyone else they know is happy, well-adjusted, in a content relationship, loving their jobs, own a big house, and are steadily saving towards retirement.

They don’t understand what’s wrong with them that they can’t figure out this life business.

Why are they having such a hard time launching their adulthood?, they ask me. 

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Comparison, Not Fear, Is The Real Mind Killer

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You are not good enough, comparison says to me everyday. I look at social media posts, and comparison tells me, I will never be good enough. I was never good enough to start, and I am going to end up being not good enough, even more.

Comparison tells me that I am ugly, fat, and stupid. It tells me that everyone else, out there, in the real world, is having more fun than me. That they are doing it better than me, no matter what ‘it’ might be. They are better at yoga than me. They are better meditators than me. Hell, they are even better lovers than me.

Comparison tells me I suck at life, I suck at adulting, and I suck at everything that I put my head and heart into. I hate myself, because of comparison. Comparison makes my life a living hell. (more…)

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Whenever You Doubt Yourself, Take A Step Back And Hold Your Heart

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I have a lot of doubt in me, and that's normal. That's what I have realized after speaking to dozens of creative people. Everyone has doubt. It's similar to how everyone has a soul. If you are human and have a heart, you are going to have an abundance of doubt sitting around either buried deep in your closet, or out in the open, hanging around everything you do. And everyone you meet. This post isn't about beating doubt. That isn't something we can actually do. It might not even be something that we need to do. It can stay there in the background like a hum. Like some white noise that hasn't really quite realized what it's true purpose is. So it stays there. But I have started this new ritual - newish to me, where every time I feel doubt, I have started placing my hand on my heart. My beautiful, beating, tender, emotional heart. My Heart Knows Even If…

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The Day You Stop Racing, Is The Day You Win The Race

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Bob Marley said those wise words that make up the title of this post. I am not as wise as him, but the words he said make so much sense to me that I wanted to share my own experience with them. Everything comes to us in exactly the right time.

These words came to me in a moment where I was racing so hard that I was killing myself. I was racing against time, beyond time, and hoping to beat time. I was working 18 hours a day, and not able to rest fully at night. I was fulfilled, don’t get me wrong. I was happy. I thought this was what I was supposed to be doing. And probably in those moments of time, I was. I absolutely was meant to be doing that.

But as moments passed by, the message became clear. I had to stop racing against time. The race had to end, or I would die racing.

To put it into real life terms, the universe was sending me the signal, that the more I was doing, the further away from myself I was running off to. Even though, I was spending my time working on projects that meant the world to me, it still didn’t mean anything. It still meant that I was running around, being inauthentic to my true self. My true self just wanted to sit around, create, be lazy, and grow immeasurably through that laziness. (more…)

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[Ep 6] Doubt Walks Besides Me Constantly, But I Don’t Falter

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Doubt Is My Friend Now

In this episode, I’ll be chatting about the concept of doubt and how it will stay with you forever and ever.

It isn’t something that only occupies the unsuccessful; it is something that pervades every soul on this planet, no matter how successful they are.

Even the most influential people! People might be at the pinnacle of success, but they are still going to wonder, ‘Am I an imposter? Do I even know what I’m talking about? How did I get here? They are going to find out I’m a fraud and kick me out.’

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