We Are Always Right Where We Are Supposed To Be

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Recently, I had to quit a job, and move back home as my parents needed my youth and strength around them to give them energy and vitality. It was an easy decision to make. I didn’t dilly-dally about it. I had the revelation during the lunar eclipse in July 2018. Lots of old ideas faded, or were ripped out of me. I had to decide what was truly important to me. My parents needed me. I had to go back home. There was nothing else for me to think about.

I came back home, and it felt right. Everyone asked me if I was feeling resentful that I had to leave a great job that I had been dreaming about, a house and life by the ocean, and a stress-free existence, to move to a different kind of existence. And this is what I told everyone.

I have made thousands of plans in my life. And I mean, thousands. I am a planner by heart. I plan everything, from grocery shopping, to window shopping, to my daily schedule, to taking a shower. Everything has a list associated with it, even if it might not be colour-coded.

I make plans. But, and this is a learning I have had over the past few years, the universe has an entirely different plan for me every single time. If I was the foolish kind (and I was that in the past), I would fight the universe’s plan for me, because goddamnit, I have a plan of my own, and I am going to follow my plan over the universe’s plan come hell or high water.

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When You Reach Your Goals And Think Now What?

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A friend of mine, Henrik Nordstrom, whom I really admire recently shared a story of his. He is originally from Sweden, and when he was 11 or so, he was overweight. He was made fun of in school and his life was pretty miserable. His mother had these Tony Robbins cassette tapes that she had bought, and one summer as he was sitting there bored, he started listening to these tapes. All about NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP) and modelling. He was one of the slowest runners in school at the end of school year in the spring, and after going through these Personal Power II tapes and learning NLP and modelling a movie scene out f Jackie Chan movie (Police Story) where the character was running fast, he was able to improve his speed, without any actual training, but just through the power of his mind.

Brilliant, right? This is just the beginning. One of his favourite shows on TV was Miami Vice. He decided at the tender age of 10 to move there and start anew. He built a really successful business, had a Ferrari, a condo by the water, more money than he knew what to do with, and the whole shebang. He had made it at the age of 21.

The reason I love this man so much is because he asked the question that most people in his situation wouldn’t ask. That question was, “Now what?” 

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Your Life Is Perfect In Hindsight, So Why Not In The Moment?

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I have been thinking about this topic a lot lately – Amor Fati. I am building a membership site at the moment. And, it is fascinating to me how so many skills that I have developed over the past 2 years (and more) have aligned perfectly so that I can create this site right now without much technical help from the outside. It’s so odd to me because for the longest time, I was a creative person. I believed myself to be creative, and non-technical.

But in 2014-5, I joined a company called Blueprint with a colleague and a boss (Sab and Ruth), both of whom pushed me constantly to become more technical. I am so grateful for their encouragement now, but at the time I used to wonder why they are torturing me with all of this extra work.

According to Sab, I had to learn how to become more technical right now. He wanted me to learn how to code HTML and CSS right at this moment. He knew I could do it, and he encouraged me constantly. He was a self-taught master and he knew that it was possible for me as well. He also asked me to use Adobe Photoshop to create simple graphics. 

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Hell No To Fuck Yes – Make That Transition

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I notice a curious trend among people nowadays. They are never truly excited about anything they are doing. Is it ‘uncool’ to be excited about anything anymore? Are we supposed to maintain a facade of boredom and cynicism on the outside? Or is it that nothing exciting happens on Earth anymore, and we need to travel into space to experience anything new and meaningful?

Drugs don’t do it anymore either. After the hundredth hit, even drugs seem to lose their magic.

Not only are people bored out of their minds, but they are also spending way too much time on things that make them feel like shit day in and day out.

Do You Have Anything You Are Saying Fuck Yes To?

I heard a saying the other day – I don’t remember who it was and I apologize for that (I think it was Mark Manson). It went this like – If you aren’t saying ‘Fuck Yes’ to something, then it should be a hell no.

Translation: If you are not excited about something that it almost makes you shit your pants with excitement, then it means, you need to stay the hell away from that endeavour, and go find something that makes you shit with excitement. Or almost shit with excitement. 

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Everything Is Perfect In Hindsight So Make It So Right Now

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If you looked back at your life right now, you will see a pattern in your life. A pattern that is apparent to everyone in hindsight. Think about the last time your life was imperfect, and something went wrong. You were in dire straits, you were crying, or angry about it, you felt like your life would never be the same again. Everything was tumbling upside down in that moment and perhaps for a few more moments after that.

Then, a few days after or a few weeks after, you wondered what all the fuss was all about? What were you so upset about? What happened? You might try to remember that anguish you felt, but the emotion you felt has faded in your mind, and you feel nothing for that oh-so-momentous occasion. It seemed so important back then. It seemed like everything was going to fall apart in your life, but nothing actually did. Everything is normal now, and you are back to the humdrum of everyday life. What happened there?

Not only that, you are sitting here a few years later, looking back at that part of your life, and you realize that that bad thing which happened to you needed to happen for you to be where you are right now. If that particular thing hadn’t happened, you wouldn’t be where you are right now. 

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