’Why Are You Living A Shitty Mediocre Life?’ Everyone Else Around Me Is Doing The Same.

Boom ShikhaDigital Nomad, Surrender 7 Comments

Now that I have been living my ideal life for the past few months, I have been thinking a lot about why I didn’t do this earlier.

Was I not aware that it was possible to live my ideal life? Did I not know that the possibility existed? Or was I just content living a shitty, mediocre life because everyone else around me was living a shitty, mediocre life as well?

In my humble opinion, no matter what excuse I come up with for being ignorant for the first 33 years of life, they all do not suffice. I always knew lots of people who were living amazing awesome lives that I was extremely jealous of. I knew people were doing it.

But in my head for some bizarre reason, this amazing life was possible for everyone else but not for me.

Is that a thought that goes through your head as well?

Do not fear my friend. I’m here to let you know, not only that this debilitating thought exists in everyone’s head, but I am going to tell you, that your IDEAL life is just over on the other side of this miserable thought.

So let’s do this thing. Let’s break down this thought to its essence and see that the monster that it portrays is just a tiny little adorable Tasmanian Devil who can’t really do anything to us.

Why Not Us??

When I first started out on my online business journey, I started following a bunch of people who were killing it online. I mean, absolutely smashing it six-figure and seven-figure incomes. So, I thought to myself. I need to learn from these people. I started messaging some of them and asking them questions.

The more I spoke to these people, the more I realize one BIG whooping fact. These people were exactly the same as me. In fact, I’m going to say this out loud, I’m actually smarter than these people. My brain moves at the speed of lightning compared to some of these individuals. I’m not insulting them. I’m actually insulting myself.

You see, even with all of my damn intelligence, and brains, I was exactly where I didn’t want to be (at that point), and they were earning thousands of freaking dollars.

That made me really angry. And sad. But mostly, really really angry.

What was the freaking point of my brains, if I was just going to sit on them as if I am saving them for some rainy day in the future?

I’m As Smart And Capable As Anyone Out There

The point is that I’m as smart if not smarter than everyone else out there (excepting a few geniuses). I’m definitely as capable as anyone out there. I have the same amount of time (24 hours) in a day as anyone out there.

So why the hell, I asked myself, wasn’t I as successful as everyone out there?

There was absolutely no reason at all that I shouldn’t be as successful as them. As soon as I realized this fact, it was as if a lightbulb went off in my head. I suddenly realized, FUCK THIS SHIT. Hell, I am better than this. Dagnabit, I am more capable than this. I can freaking do this.

That’s when I started my online business, and I am living my ideal life right now!!!

I’m not telling you this to make you jealous, although jealousy can be a really powerful emotion if harnessed properly. But I’m telling you to empower you –

You are freaking perfect as you are, you don’t need anything more to start building your ideal life as you dream of it. You can do it right now!!! Right freaking now. You don’t need another Master’s Degree, or a husband or a partner or a sugar daddy or a cash infusion or whatever else you are using as an excuse to hold yourself back. You don’t need anything. All you need is time, hard-work, patience, and trust.

Perfectionism Is The Devil Incarnate

You are going to hear me say this over and over again. Perfectionism is the enemy of done. Stop worrying about perfectionism, and just produce more and more shit and get it out there asap.

The market isn’t waiting for anyone. You could wait eons to make something perfect, and the market would have already moved on from that need. But if you produce dirty, but fast, and get your stuff out there as soon as possible, then your clients/customers/prospects actually have a chance to read your stuff, and buy from you potentially.

A dirtily finished product is a hundred times more successful than a product still sitting on the drawing board or worse in your head.

So get it out there.

On Creating Quick And Dirty

You know how I write these blog posts of mine?

I blast some awesome Techno music, sit down on desk, crack my knuckles and I write without censoring myself whatever comes to my head about the topic that I’m thinking of. I write for the next 30-45 minutes; about 2000 to 3000 words. Once, I’m done writing, I give myself 5 minutes to edit the shit I’ve just written (it’s all shit to me). And I press ‘Publish’.

That’s it, dawg (I’m so not gangster, as you can tell). That’s freaking it. I don’t worry about it or ponder over it for days.

You know why??

Because as soon as you start pondering or worrying about your stuff, you are going to realize that it’s all crap and you will never ever put it out there for others to enjoy.

That’s what I would do. If I spend more than 5 minutes reading my stuff, I realize that I am a horrible writer and I shouldn’t be allowed to publish anything. Even if the rest of the world reads my stuff and says it’s absolute magic, in my head I’m an absolutely horrible writer. So in order to make sure I publish all of the stuff I write, I spend very little editing. I hit publish as soon as I can.

The minute it is out there and shared with the world, I forget about what I’ve written. It’s done and over with. I break up with my material the minute it’s published. I never want to think about it. It’s dead to me.

I move on. Next!

Write Down Every Bullshit Excuse In Your Head

One of the things I did at the very beginning of my journey (when I decided to say fuck this shit and I am going to live my ideal life no matter what) was to write down all the excuses and fears I had in my head.

Let me share this life-changing passage from my most favourite book in the world, ‘The War of Art’ by Steven Pressfield.

” Resistance feeds on fear. We experience Resistance as fear. But fear of what?

Fear of the consequences of following our heart. Fear of bankruptcy, fear of poverty, fear of insolvency. Fear of grovelling when we try to make it on our own, and of grovelling when we give up and come crawling back to where we started. Fear of being selfish, of being rotten wives or disloyal husbands; fear of failing to support our families, of sacrificing their dreams for ours. Fear of betraying our race, our ‘hood, our homies. Fear of failure. Fear of being ridiculous. Fear of throwing away the education, the training, the preparation that those we love have sacrificed so much for, that we ourselves have worked our butts off for. Fear of launching into the void, of hurtling too far out there; fear of passing some point of no return, beyond which we cannot recant, cannot reverse, cannot rescind, but must live with this cocked-up choice for the rest of our lives. Fear of madness. Fear of insanity. Fear of death.”

Pull out of the passage above all of the fears that hit your heart whenever you think about living your ideal life.

Write down all of the freaking excuses that come in your head when you think about living your ideal life.

Something like, I’m not techie enough. Or, I’m too old, or too young, or too fat, or too skinny, or too Indian, or not white enough. Maybe, I have too much debt or I don’t make enough money, or my parents make too much money so I’m not motivated enough.

They Are All Weak Excuses

Okay, so now you have written down some of these fears and excuses in a special notebook of yours. Now I’m going to tell you something you are not going to like very much.

Here it is.

All of your excuses suck!!!!

They have no pizazz or strength behind them. You know why??? Because I bet you I could find at least ten people in the world who could have used the same excuse as you, but instead of that, they are killing it on the battlefield. They are successful, despite the fact that they are short, or fat, or Indian, or Latino, or whatever else.

If they can make it, you can as well.

You might be thinking to yourself, but isn’t that easy.

Yes, you are right. It won’t be easy, but it is definitely not impossible.

When we look at the excuses that we have built up in our heads, our ideal life looks as far away as Mars to us. And truly, you will have to put in a lot of hard work before you will get there.

BUT, if you are willing to put in the hard work and very few are, then you will get there.

You will get there. I assure you of that.

Success Involves Getting Help From The Universe

In reality, we puny humans need the help of the universe in achieving our goals. The great thing is that the universe is ecstatically happy to help us reach our goals. The universe wants to help us achieve our goals. The universe is there for that exact reason.

But in our egoistic way, we think we are good enough on our own and we don’t need anyone’s help. Not only will you need and want masterminds and other people’s help on your journey, but you will truly find monumental success when you allow the universe to help you as well.

That is the real key.


Allow the universe to send you messages, signals, and signs to help you along on your journey.

The journey will be long and hard as it is. Why make it harder for ourselves?

Allow The Universe To Guide Us

The universe is constantly speaking to us through our gut, and other signs and signals. I am forever indebted to the universe, because without the universe’s help, I would not be where I am right now.

When I first quit my job, I asked the universe for help and it send me a bunch of amazing mentors.

Then, I started feeling the pinch of using all of my savings, I asked the universe for help, and it sent me a sign to move to Chiang Mai, where I was able to save money, and meet awesome online business owners to boot.

Finally, I decided that I wanted to go to Burning Man in 2017, I asked the universe, and two days later, I found out that a friend of mine in Chiang Mai has a camp at Burning Man. Voila!

Manifesting Secret: Ask And Then Let Go

One thing people tell me is that they asked for something a few days ago and it hasn’t arrived yet. Does that mean, that they are horrible at manifesting?

Let me tell you a secret. You are dealing with the universe here who is more magnanimous and filled with more wisdom than you can imagine. Seriously, we have no idea what we are dealing with here.

We think in terms of going from Point A to Point B, that is, we are here and we want to be there.

The universe is always and forever working in your favour. But the route it’s going to send you on is going to be absolutely convoluted and crazy.

Just trust that everything that you want is coming at you in the best possible way.

I always ask the universe for something, and then I just let go. I trust absolutely that the universe is going to give me what I want.

It might arrive tomorrow. It might arrive a year later. But I know that the universe loves me and wants to give me more than I could ever imagine.

Do not doubt the universe’s good intentions. Trust and let go.

From Darkness To The Light – No More Shitty Mediocre Life Please

When the end comes, will we be able to say we lived every moment as we wanted to live it? Or will we have a long list of reasons why it wasn’t possible for us?

“But, God, I am too tall, and my smile is too wide, that is why I had a miserable life, it wasn’t my fault. You made me like that. It’s your fault.”

When it comes down to it, no one is going to give a rat’s ass about US, except us.

It is our responsibility to engineer our lives the way we want it to look, and to stop making excuses for all of it.

Let me know what you thought of this post. Is it too harsh? Is it too mild? Is it too blah?

I’m always looking for feedback. Also, if you are interested in emailing me with questions or getting coached by me, email me at boomshikha at millionairehippie.designextreme.com.

Catch ya later!

Boom Shikha

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  1. i had some inklings about this. this post is a conformation the universe sent me. this serendipity these meaningful coincidences. the part about asking desiring something and letting it go trusting not sweating it, not wearing it out through ceaseless analysis and frustrating waiting reading the signs resonate with me. i want your life the writing part rather the daring to publish. i spend my days nearly all of it streaming my thought into paper and evernote. many tomes the beauty of it surprises. like you I quite my job and my old life and moved to Addis Abeba where i can live cheap and experiment with business that in distaste but led me to magical writing i never knew i have this much. i write and write and write it doesn’t end most of it personal but in a metaphysical sense way too many layers and revelations about me and people that went through my life.
    now I feel there is some movement guiding me into online world of writing i cannot tell if it is my ever burning wishful thinking or really intuition i see some signs my conditioned fretful police mind love to warn me about dissect and analyse to death. but the letting go part is helping trusting the universe whatever and carry on almost recklessly.

    p.s. this post is so personal to me through you. thank you for bringing this message.

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      Wowww.. I love your comment. It really made my heart sing. Please keep on writing. It is obviously something your heart is telling you to do, and we should never ever ignore our hearts’ desires. Unless, we want our spirit to die. I am here to help in anyway that you need. Good luck and keep on shining!

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