Decisions May Be Hard For INFJs Because They Have A Tendency To See 8 Sides To Everything

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One of the main reasons my INTJ sister and I fight is because she doesn’t understand that I see the world in extreme shades of gray. Whereas for her the world is more a case of black and white, with a little bit of gray somewhere in there, sometimes. Decisions are easier for her, and not so much for me.

In fact, this is one of the main reasons why I despised myself for the longest time. I used to think that I am weak or I don’t really have a mind of my own, because I would flit from opinion to opinion, depending on the day, and my mood. Even now, I have a tendency to occasionally negate my awesome ability to see both sides of the situation, and mediate on the subject matter. 

Why are INFJs like this? Our ability to see all sides of the situation comes from our deep empathic capacity. We have a big heart, but we are also able to use said big heart, to peer into people’s minds and hearts, and see life from their perspective. Whenever I am in the middle of an argument between two people I love, I have an extremely difficult time siding with one person or the other, because truly I can see the world from both of their sides, and both of their sides are right in their own way. How could I possibly choose one more than the other? It seems an impossible task. 

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[Ep 79] Do You Know What Your Values Are?

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In this episode, I’ll be chatting with you about values and how we all should figure out our values that will then help guide our life choices and paths.

Have you ever done your value system? Its very easy to work out what your top five values are and knowing them will help you work towards your ideal life. Life can be crazy and hectic. Knowing our core values will help us live a happy, and positive life. Not only that, it will also help us prioritize our goals, and guide our life in the right direction.

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  1. Have you done your value system?
  2. What are your values?
  3. The values I live by
  4. Why having an understanding of our core values is important

Once you understand what your top values are, use the most important value to guide you and your choices in life. My top value in life in freedom. I want to have as much freedom in my life as possible. I want the freedom to live where I want, to spend my money how I wish, and to work on the projects I choose.

This is how I view freedom, but this might be very different from how someone else views freedom. Your values are for yourself, and no one else. Make sure your values are true to you and your beliefs. Someone else might view freedom as the ability to surf all day long, or not work a 9 to 5 job. To someone else, it might be financial freedom. This doesn’t mean that your idea is wrong, it’s just personal to you.

Sit down, decide on your top core values and live your life by them. If you have to make any tough decisions, refer to your values first and make sure they are in line with each other. This will help you live a happy and ideal life.

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[Ep 53] Create a Jealousy Map to Guide Your Decisions

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In this episode, I’ll be chatting about using jealousy as a guidepost to our heart’s desires, rather than an emotion to be avoided. I call these Jealousy Maps.

Normally, jealousy is used in a negative light. We believe that if we feel jealousy then we are horrible human beings, who are imperfect, and that, we should never ever feel jealousy if we are to be good. Jealousy is avoided, eschewed, and demeaned as an emotion.

The key in turning it around is by using all these insights we gleaned from our feelings of jealousy and wield it as a weapon to enhance and transform our lives for the better. Jealousy has an important lesson in it that we miss if we avoid listening to its message by running away from it. 

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