The Point Is Not To Chase Happiness, But To Do Our Work

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Emerson says:

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”

When I was in my teens, and 20s, I used to believe the lie that had been perpetuated by society. That my sole purpose in life is to chase happiness. To run after it as if a demon from hell is going to murder me if I don’t.

I spent all of my time thinking, wondering, reflecting, dreaming about that special day when I would be happy.

Oh, what a great day that would be! It would be rainbows and butterflies, and everything would be oh-so-perfect. I would go tra-la-laing around the world, because at that point, I would have not a worry left in this physical realm.

Of course, I know how foolish I am. The more we chase after something, the more it eludes us. The more fervently we want something or desire something, the more it slips from our slimy grasp.

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Peace Doesn’t Come To Us In A Moment In The Future

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When we are here in this moment in time, and if we aren’t happy in this moment in time, we believe our peace and happiness lies somewhere in the future. It’s there, out there somewhere. It’s not here, it’s not here with me, but out there.

Maybe, our happiness is attached to some car, or some purse, or some person, or some destination. Once, we get there, we will be happy. By now, all of you must know this story and how it ends.

The universe can be rather dastardly in giving us its teachings. We teach that thing that we had been working towards, and all of a sudden, we realize we are still not happy.

Damn! Okay, no worries. I’m sure my happiness is somewhere in the future, somewhere out there, somewhere in that next t-shirt I will buy. Or that beautiful person that I will date. Or that Korean drama that I will watch.

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Without Suffering, There Is No Happiness

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“Olive is crushed to make the best oils. Grapes are squeezed to make the finest wines. Roses are pressed to make the most fragrant perfumes. Have you been crushed, squeezed and pressed by life’s trials and difficulties?
Be glad…”

As a minor online influencer, I get a lot of people messaging me all the time asking me questions. Mostly, the questions run in one direction. “I feel so lost, I don’t know what I am doing with my life, I feel like the universe hates me and is giving me an especially hard life, I feel like a failure, what should I do?”

When I hear those words, my first reaction is to smile. Not because I’m cruel, or sadistic in anyway, I don’t like other people in pain. But I smile, because it reminds me of my own trials by fire a few years ago, where I said the exact same things in my journal several times a week. I was lost, I felt alone, I felt like I had lost everything, every identity I owned, I felt like an absolute loser/failure, and I wondered what my next steps should be.

I share this story often with people because people think that I have always known what I wanted to do with my life, because I come across as so powerfully confident in their interactions with me. If they only knew the truth!

Well, that’s why I am constantly sharing my own story of despair and suffering, so that they can realize not only that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, but that it might appear sooner rather than later, and only if they keep on going consistently on that miserable path. (more…)

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[Ep 66] Our Inside World Creates The Outside

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In this episode, I’ll be chatting about the age-old philosophy that your outside world will not change until and unless you change your inside world. It is an insurmountable fact.

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On the outside, they are very, very rich.

But when I speak to them, I notice that they sometimes have a scarcity mindset. They do not believe that they have enough. They always want more so they are always hoarding, and always worrying about money.

That is not true wealth. Even though their outside world has money, they do not have that abundance mindset on the inside, and thus, they are not truly rich. And until they change their mindset, they will never be truly rich. (more…)

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[Ep 30] This Magical Joyful Life That We Live

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In this episode, I will be talking about the excitement, the joy of being alive.

What does it mean to be happy? For most people, positive states are rare and only come at certain times to punctuate negatives states of mind. But being happy, feeling the joy of life, comes from our internal self, rather than from the outside world. We are responsible for our own happiness.

The universe is a reflection of our thought process. It is a manifestation of our own feelings and emotions.

We are the creators of our everyday situations. What matter is inside of us.

Outside sources of positivity are only illusions. Only us, individually can pave the road to perpetual joy: ‘My internal being is happy and nothing can phase her happiness’.

And while it is normal to be fearful, doubtful or anxious regarding other people’s judgement (e.g. our family, relatives, lovers, and friends), what truly matters is how we feel about our choices, accomplishments and realizations. (more…)

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Work Horror Stories? Life Isn’t Supposed To Be Like This.

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Work Horror Stories

Ever since I quit my job and shared my story with the people in my life, I have had several people come up to me (virtually and in real life) and tell me their work horror stories.

  • Working long hours without pay,
  • Letting people go and their workload lumped in with yours,
  • Not letting you go on vacation because there isn’t any backup available, etc.

I’m sure I don’t need to tell you these stories – you are probably living them in your own life.

But the thing that saddened me the most was how often people would tell me that they came home from their jobs and spent a few minutes or hours every day crying in their kitchen or on their couches.

Instead of taking the time away from their jobs to relax, they were spending it in misery, and sadness.

That really irked the hell out of me.

I wanted to shout from the rooftops – This isn’t how it’s supposed to be. Life is supposed to be easy. Humans aren’t supposed to work so damn hard. 

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13 Questions That Will Help You Find Your Life Purpose

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Are you living up to your infinite potential?

This is a hard post to write because it reminds me of the time in my life when I was miserable and unfulfilled.

But I want to do it to help everyone who’s dealing with this misery. It is such an important topic that I want to shout it out from the top of rooftops. I wish everyone knew what I know now.

Before I Knew My Life Purpose

Before I figured out my life purpose and started living up to my potential, taking advantage of my talents and abilities, living my true self according to my deepest authentic self, I used to walk around with a severe inferiority complex.

  • I had a hard time looking others in the eye.
  • I had a hard time looking myself in the eye.
  • I had a hard time with silence because I was afraid of finding out the truth – the truth being that I am wasting my time here on Earth and I have a limited amount of time to rectify that.
  • I had a hard time with my worthiness. I felt like I didn’t deserve to be alive, to take up space, to get my share of the pie.

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