Decisions May Be Hard For INFJs Because They Have A Tendency To See 8 Sides To Everything

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One of the main reasons my INTJ sister and I fight is because she doesn’t understand that I see the world in extreme shades of gray. Whereas for her the world is more a case of black and white, with a little bit of gray somewhere in there, sometimes. Decisions are easier for her, and not so much for me.

In fact, this is one of the main reasons why I despised myself for the longest time. I used to think that I am weak or I don’t really have a mind of my own, because I would flit from opinion to opinion, depending on the day, and my mood. Even now, I have a tendency to occasionally negate my awesome ability to see both sides of the situation, and mediate on the subject matter. 

Why are INFJs like this? Our ability to see all sides of the situation comes from our deep empathic capacity. We have a big heart, but we are also able to use said big heart, to peer into people’s minds and hearts, and see life from their perspective. Whenever I am in the middle of an argument between two people I love, I have an extremely difficult time siding with one person or the other, because truly I can see the world from both of their sides, and both of their sides are right in their own way. How could I possibly choose one more than the other? It seems an impossible task. 

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INFJs Go Crazy When They Aren’t Allowed Their Time Away From People To Recharge

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Recently, I went travelling with my parents and sister to Morocco, something that has been on my bucket list, ever since I watched the movie, Casablanca. Now, believe me, when I say, I love my parents, and sister, more than anyone else on the planet. But, I was about ready to commit murder at the end of the 9 days, because I had spent almost 24-7 with them for those 9 days, except when I was dead asleep to the world, exhausted from all of the sightseeing.

Thankfully, I was sharing a space with my INTJ sister, and she understood the importance of my detox/alone time every day, which meant that she gave me some time to be on my own, right after we came back from a long day of being tourists, and in the morning, so I could do my all-important morning routine. 

The importance of alone time for an INFJ cannot be overemphasized. I’m not joking with the title of this post, when I say we literally will seem like different beings if we are not allowed to get our alone recharge time.

Normally, we seem like the most easy going people on the planet. At times, we might even be considered charming, and affable. But, if you put us into a situation where we are not allowed to spend a few hours a day on our own, chilling out, doing our thing, and recharging, we will turn into horrible monsters, who will destroy everything that stands in our path. We will turn into these other world beings, completely different from what you imagined we were like before.

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Why Do INFJs Hate Being Touched By Strangers? – It’s All About Contamination In My Opinion

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I’m originally from India. Although I was 5 months old when my parents moved us first to the Middle East, and then to Canada. I’m grateful as an INFJ that my parents did move us, because Indians have really no concept of personal space. Which means that whenever I go back to visit my relatives, even though I love them so much, I always feel grateful to come back to the solitude and vast personal space etiquette of Canada. Conclusion: Energy matters.

It’s an INFJ thing. Which is devastatingly confusing to all of the people around me. Because if I like someone and I am friends with them, I am overly touchy-feely, hugging them, slapping them on the shoulder, or the thigh. Even in relationships, I love PDAs, and will always be glomping myself onto my significant other, much to the chagrin of the people around us.

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My Extroverted Friends Know That I Am An Introvert And What That Entails

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I used to be ashamed of being an introvert for such a long time. I guess, that was all necessary, in order to grow into the person I have become now, who gives zero apologies for who I am, and what I want. 

But when I was younger, I used to assume that my introverted nature was something to hide – like a dirty disease that everyone would point their finger at, and laugh. I assumed that I had to behave like everyone else in my school and at home. 

It seemed like everyone else around me loved being around people all the time, no matter what time of day, or how long it had been since they had been alone. 

All of that stuff seemed to matter only to me. 

I was the weird one. Therefore, I had to be the one who had to hide my oddity. 

I had to hide it away into a box, and pretend to fit in with all of the extroverts around me. 

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When We Think We Aren’t Good Enough As Introverts, We Deny A Major Part Of Our Power

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Can you think of your introversion as one of your superpowers? Say it with me – I have introvert power. In a world where extroverts are in the majority, introverts are generally treated like the black sheep of the family or the dreaded second cousin who stinks and no one wants to hang out with. 

All activities, events, jobs, schools, and societal rules are geared towards extroverts. Making us as introverts feel like we are just a burden, and an unwanted Cinderella-like stepsister. 

I believe the real transformation in the life of an introvert comes when they are able to accept their introversion as the most beautiful and powerful part of themselves. It takes a lot of time and effort, a lot of work, reflection, and self-love, in order to get here, but once you get here, you are going to be able to transform not only yourself, but the entire universe that you live in. 

The truth is that we need both kinds of people in this world in order for the world to function perfectly. Even if the world is a bit skewed towards extroverts right now, it doesn’t mean that extroverts are the best ones of the bunch, or that introverts are the best of the bunch. Both parties are equally capable of both good and bad. Both parties are necessary for the world to function in a balanced manner.

Can you imagine if there were only introverts in this world? Everyone would spend all of their time at home, and nothing social would ever get done. It would be a surreal place to live in, to be certain. 

Anytime, I give advice to any of my introverted friends, or viewers on my YouTube channel, I tell them the same thing – realize your introvert power.

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Introverts May Appear Closer To Extroverts At Certain Times

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One of the main things that irked me about being an introvert for the longest time was that if I displayed even a smidgeon of extrovertedness, everyone started looking at me like I had grown two heads. 

But more than that, when I started off with new acquaintances, being extroverted, when I went back to being an introvert, I started receiving all of this flak about deceiving people. 

I didn’t make you believe anything – I am just being myself, for god’s sake. 

Okay, rant over, but not really.

I love all of my extroverted friends – I really do. But there are definitely certain things that I wish they knew about my introverted nature, because seriously that would make my life so much easier. If every extroverted person on the planet could read this article, it would be such a boon for all of the introverted people in their lives.

There are 3 things you need to know about us being introverts that will keep this confusion at bay.

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